2. My girl don’t turn me on anymore
3. If I had you, I’d do things to you that you cannot imagine
4. Your man nuh have no sense if him a let you out of the house alone and not going places with you
5. Babes, just give me one chance to prove to you what good loving is
Etc, etc, etc… the list goes on
One of my favourite genres of music is dancehall. I just love how the lyrics are merged to form
a song that’s not only sexy, but implies so much to let you turn up the heat in
the bedroom.
My issue, though, is that these songs are ALL telling
‘women’ what to do, what positions to let you ‘hol the man’ and also how they
love the skin out and dash out. In the
same breath that these songs give you motivation, I have to ask ‘what about the
men?’
Are we still living
in the days when women are the ones who are to please their men? While the
women’s needs are placed on the backburner?
We have some ‘in-dependent’ women who will be at the front
of the line that says “Mi nah go outta my way fi please no man” and they will
have the attitude etched across their faces, but within a few hours of such
blatant lie will find themselves in compromising positions trying to ‘please
their man’ (whether theirs or borrowed)
With Cupid’s retreating butt being a speck on the horizon
and a few days have passed since that fatal day where persons went about making
or breaking someone’s heart, we saw a lot of storefronts advertising their
wares showcasing the sexiest of lingerie for women. I know the female form is
one of the best things even before sliced bread. Especially when a woman has either good genes
or has taken the time to look after her body, when that lingerie goes on her
form it is a really appreciated sight.
However, I dare say that we women would love to have the men
do something different for us. Bring something
new to the table to entice us, motivate us so we will want to do things for
you. Women do get bored with their
partners and would like some spice in the relationship also.
There will be men who jump up to say that they are the
‘bedroom master’ or some ridiculous cocky term that they invented. Sometimes it does come as a shocker when you
hear the tales from the lips of their partners.
Unfortunately, though, we have seen where women are in relationships for
years and end up not voicing their opinions or desires for the bedroom. Why is this a touchy conversation piece? When
at the end of it you will either get what you want or your partner will be
oversensitive and end the relationship?
So, saying all that, it brings me back to my main topic… how
comes when anything pertaining to the bedroom is being discussed, singed about
or advertised, it all points to the woman?
It feels like we were brainwashed by society to continuously
point finger at the female when it comes onto relationship failure due to sexual
problems. Over the past few years, though,
we see more and more women speaking out about their failed relationships and we
also see men speaking up about their ‘problems-in-bed’. With this burning topic, doctors have come up
with quick-fixes that sometimes come in the form of little blue tablets; this,
however, does not solve the bedroom approach problem.
More and more events are being held to focus on women
satisfaction. There you’ll find well
oiled muscles of steel gyrating to the pulsing music of R. Kelly, Genuwine,
Keith Sweat, and many other artistes who focus on singing about the pleasure of
the female body. These promoters realize the missing element in a lot of
relationships and have maximized on this to create an atmosphere where the
Pineal Gland in the brain is constantly stimulated and the woman end up leaving
the venue in an almost orgasmic state.
My confusion leans towards the fact that we, women have to go to these
places to feast our eyes while the men in our lives are not meeting this need
but expect go-go like qualities behind closed doors. Men need to step up their game; don’t just
focus on what you need from the relationship but think about creative ways that
you can give.
I am yours faithfully,
The original DivaKnockoff
Xoxo
